Homo Sapiens

Life is a heap of emotions and feelings, a careful mixture of happy and sad ones, however for some unknown reason humans tend to hold on to the not so happy ones. We all cherish the happy moments of our lives but we don't recall them often. Whatever memories we tend to recollect have a bit of sadness attached to them.

I haven't yet been able to figure out why. Maybe we like to be in that gloomy state, or we just want people to be sympathetic towards us, or we just want to be a part of the majority!

It’s a known fact, if someone is happy most of the time, that person is either termed as being sad and lonely deep within, or he is judged to be a not so nice person. Stereotypes, I tell you!

But  why?

Why can someone not be happy all the time! Just because you wish to hold on to all those depressing memories and live a life regretting your actions or probably cursing god, doesn't mean the other person should follow suit!

Humans are a very very simple creation of god! All our actions, emotions, needs… Everything is based on our self-happiness and a desire to be in a powerful position or be an attention seeker. As they say, social boycott is probably the worst punishment, simply because we hate to stay unknown, or be unwanted, we fear being alone. We all crave for attention… And a sure shot way of receiving it is by being 'sad'.. It isn't empathy but sympathy that we all like.. We may not accept it, but if we take a minute and look inside ourselves, most of you would agree, if not openly, but surely behind closed doors, in your own company.

We humans are a unique species… Very easy to understand, yet we try to layer ourselves with complexities... It just makes us more desirable for others…Hence more attention.

Such is the human nature!

Acceptance

Almost 18 years of life, and I wonder how good or bad this world full of people is… I surely am a young entrant to this drama called ‘Life’ but these initial years have taught me one very important lesson, you are alone at the end of the day. 

All of us have different notions about the handful of people around us,  our family, friends, siblings, teachers, colleagues etc. And most of the times these notions aren’t just our own, they are influenced highly by the kind of ‘friends’ we have and the kind of society we live in.

Even after spending a considerable time in this world, I still haven’t figured out the set of people who fall under the various categories that I have set. I am not any saint, so for me a category roughly similar to the ‘Bad people’ does exist! But along with it I have a never ending list of wonderful people too but somehow the list keeps increasing and decreasing with each of their actions.

In today’s times being smart doesn’t really mean being truthful or even genuine for that matter, it just means creating an illusion in others minds that you love them the most! A selfish mentality, an attitude of ‘First I’ or ‘I, Me, Myself’ is evident from not just our actions but also our lifestyle.

I don’t consider myself to be one of those ‘smart’ people anyway, my emotions are reflected clearly on my face and even in my words, by just saying ‘oh I love you so much’ when inside you are murmuring ‘ You are such a jerk’ I don’t think we do much good to the society. 

We humans, I have come to realize is, are a very funny breed altogether, our notions of who’s good or who’s bad is directly proportional to the good or bad things others do to us. In fact, if someone does something good for us by harming a third people, we tend to like the person because he has done something good for us; we easily ignore the fact that he harmed someone else in the process of making us happy! But if the same person does the exactly same thing but places us at the other end, we tend to dislike the person.
Why these double standards? 

I'm still in search this answer....

But it isn't worng to conclude with this,

We all dislike criticism

We are scared to say the truth

We are afraid of being alone!

The sooner we accept the problem, the quicker we’ll be able to solve it.

Don’t be what others want you to be, just be yourself and let the world follow.

Apology: A Superglue!

There are times when someone may just do something stupid to bring a smile on your face; At that time it may irritate you and you may shout or respond rudely bad without realising and without acknowledging the noble purpose of the other person.

 Anger and impulsive nature can ruin the best of relationships at times and create differences and misunderstandings which may never get resolved.


Take a step forward and apologise to everyone whom you may have hurt unknowingly or knowingly; even if you aren't on talking terms anymore; this will be a positive step forward which will surely give you immense satisfaction.
Apologise even to your best buddies, you may have hurt them without realising or they must have felt hurt for any of your action or words. This one apology will clear out all misunderstandings without even confronting the issue!


"An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything." ~Lynn Johnston